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10 secrets to a lasting relationship

The first secret - the power of thought -

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you to recognize her when you meet her.

The second secret - the power of respect -

You can't love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect myself about ?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, "What do I respect about them"

The third secret - the power of giving -

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it. The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The fourth secret - the power of friendship -

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The fifth secret - the power of touch -

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

The sixth secret - the power of letting go-

If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life"

The seventh secret - the power of communication -

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those magic words " I love you" . Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ... why are you waiting ?

The eight secret - the power of commitment -

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. if you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The ninth secret - the power of passion -

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same

The tenth secret - the power of trust -

Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust the completely. Act as if you relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly ? " If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

It would help to keep these few observations in mind : we are born with two eyes in front because we must not always look behind, but see what lies ahead, beyond ourselves. We are born to have two ears, one left , one right so we can hear both sides , collect both the compliments and criticisms, to see which is right.

We are born with a brain concealed in a skull, then no matter how poor, we are still rich, for no one can steal what our brain contains, packing in more jewels and rings than you can think. We are born with two eyes , two ears , but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon, it can hurt, flirt, kill ; remember the motto - talk less, listen and see more.

We are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs, it reminds us to appreciate and give love from deep within. Hating people is like burning down your house when you want to get rid of a rat.



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